If you want to be a great boss, let your integrity guide you.

Managing employees can be a rewarding experience or a difficult one depending on your approach. Like all relationships, the manager/employee interaction will grow with trust, respect, honesty, and clear communication or will whither and die from a lack of those qualities.

Think back to when you were an employee. Reflect on the worst boss you ever had. What made the relationship so difficult? Now reflect on the best boss you ever had. What was it about their style and interaction that supported you to be a good employee? If you haven’t experienced a good boss before, imagine one now – how would they supervise, communicate and delegate? Now take that a step further by realizing that each person requires a different approach in management. Being a great boss requires flexibility, not rigidity.

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Forgive yourself for past mistakes and set yourself free.

Blaming yourself for something you did or didn’t do doesn’t help; it only causes more pain. Learning from mistakes and seeing the gift is how we heal and grow in life. We’ve each said something that stung another, done something that made us cringe, or didn’t do something that would have made a difference. Shaming and beating ourselves up keeps the pain alive and shuts us down. This prevents us from gleaning insights that might make us a better person down the road.

How to Forgive Yourself

Forgiveness is a form of self-love. True forgiveness involves acceptance, compassion and understanding which allows us to release the pain from past mistakes.

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Writing an apology letter to a friend is a heart and soul experience.

Friendship provides love, support, companionship, and fun, but it also offers an opportunity for growth and self-awareness. As we trigger each other and push our hot buttons, we have two choices: explore our issues, release limitations and evolve to a new level, or go into resistance, shut down, and end the friendship. There are of course times when it’s in the best interests of both people to move on from the relationship. If it can be done with honesty and closure, it can be a healing experience. But when is a friendship over and when is there a rift that needs to be mended?

If you would like to mend your friendship, a letter of apology might be the best place to start. If it doesn’t heal your relationship, at least it will provide you with some closure. Here are some suggestions on how to get started.

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Set your intention to increase self-love and watch it bubble forth.

When you make loving yourself a top priority, your self-affinity, self-esteem and self-worth increase dramatically. From this place it’s easy to speak your truth, set healthy boundaries, and honor your dreams. There’s no holding back on what you believe in. You take loving care of your body, mind and soul. You express your highest values and treat others with respect. Love emanates from your soul, embracing those around you with warmth, acceptance and appreciation.

This form of love is not common in most societies. It’s considered egocentric by some as though loving yourself leads to being greedy, selfish, and hedonistic. On the contrary, a lack of self-love leads people to live from a place of scarcity which can manifest as poverty and insecurity or swing to the opposite with an overindulgence in physical and material pleasures. True self-love is balanced and stems from a deeper heart and soul connection.

The first step to increase self-love is to set your intention. From there, all you need to do is remove the blocks to love and be in a loving state each day. This may not sound easy at first, but with patience and persistence, loving yourself will feel as natural as breathing.

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Marriage is like a boat – casting blame on why it’s sinking is less important than getting it afloat.

If your marriage is in trouble and marriage counseling either isn’t an option or hasn’t worked to save your marriage, you might benefit from Mort Fertel’s 7 Secrets for Fixing Your Marriage. Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships. I’ve summarized his seven step process below, but for a more information read his complementary report.

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The best self-care tip for mothers is to nurture the body, mind and soul each and every day.

As rich and rewarding as motherhood is, it can be draining if women don’t take time to nurture themselves. Giving care, love and attention to a child feeds the soul, but when you add all the other daily tasks and responsibilities to the bundle, it becomes heavy. Mothers need to remember the importance of feeding themselves first so they have sustenance to give to others. They need to nurture their body, mind and soul.

If you are a busy mother on the go, schedule in time for these nurturing self-care activities. These will energize you on every level so you can stay healthy and balanced.

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