Connect to others from the heart and soul by saying hello to the spirit within.
Doesn’t it feel wonderful to have a warm and positive exchange with another person; whether it’s a friend you spend time with, an acquaintance you bump into, or the clerk behind the counter? In this busy world where come into contact with so many people, how many do we really connect with? How often do we give and receive a deep hello, share a real part of ourselves and make a true connection? It’s easy to pass by someone and give them the usual “hello, how are you. . . I’m fine thanks” and move on. But what if we stopped and gave them a real hello from deep within us to deep within them? What if we connected to their heart and soul and shared a real part of ourselves?
I don’t think we’d explode, dissolve or disappear into the atmosphere. At worst we’d slow down for a second, move into the present moment and let go of our hurriedness. And most likely we’d feel a glow of warmth and joy emanate from within as we move out of isolation.
It may be easy to have a deeper connection in our close relationships, but what about with co-workers, colleagues, and neighbours? Imagine how refreshing and fulfilling it would feel to be authentic and have a meaningful connection, even if it’s just in a quick exchange. And what about the people who trigger us and push our ‘run, avoid or attack’ buttons? If we look past surface personalities we can see more clearly who the other person is and connect with that truer part of them. Past the personas and masks, beyond the wounds and insecurities, lays the beauty and bigness of the true being that is wearing the extra garb as protection. When we see who another person really is it frees us at the same time to be our true selves. It is from this space that we can make heartfelt and rewarding connections.
What Helps You to Connect to Others?
Explore the following questions as a way to gain insights into what supports you to connect to others in your daily life.
~ How does it feel when someone is being present with you, hearing and seeing who you really are? What does it feel like to be present with another and truly hear and understand them? What do you need to let go of, or do more of in order to connect more deeply?
~ How often and with whom do you connect more deeply? What supports you to do this? What are the benefits? What gets in the way of connecting this way with others?
~ With strangers that you encounter such as a store clerk or a restaurant server, how do you greet them? Do you see them and give them a real hello? If you are in the service industry, how does it feel when customers give you a genuine hello?
Explore Ways to Deepen Connection with Others
Try these suggestions as a way to deepen your connection with others.
~ The next time you are with a close friend or partner, deepen your connection by really listening and hearing what they say through their words, body language, and by what they don’t say. Do this with total acceptance. Let go of any opinions or stories whirling in your mind and listen from your heart. When it is time for you to speak, communicate from your heart and soul, not just your intellect.
~ Each time you greet an acquaintance or a stranger providing you a service, look deeply into their eyes while saying hello. Ask them how they are and truly listen to their response. If they ask you a question, give an honest response back.
~ With people that trigger or irritate you, try to see who they are beyond their behaviors. See the spiritual being behind their persona. Practice acceptance and notice what it’s like to interact without resistance, defenses or judgments.
As you explore the questions above and play with the suggestions you will naturally deepen connection with others.
Do you have any questions or additional insights to add on how to connect to others from the heart and soul? Please share below.