Learning how to process and release charged emotions will free you to experience lighter states of being.
Strong emotions such as raging anger, aching sadness, and paralyzing fear can be overwhelming at times. But shutting them down only makes them feel more daunting. Suppressed and repressed emotions have a way of sneaking back up to the surface. If not processed, they come out in inappropriate ways.
Emotions are really just vibrations of energy similar to colors and sounds. Just as a key on a piano reverberates when tapped, a person’s body emanates a vibration when touched by experience. Lower vibrations such as apathy and boredom have a slow, heavy feeling. Sadness is a bit lighter and anger is faster. Joy and enthusiasm are light and effervescent.
If invalidation is thrown in our space or an old wound is triggered, our emotions become charged and explosive. If we take on another’s emotions, we feel even more out of control as we can’t process emotions that belong to someone else. The first step is to acknowledge our feelings and allow them room to breathe. From there we can process and release charged emotions.
How to Process Emotions
Emotional expression is natural for human beings, yet many of us were taught that sharing our feelings is inappropriate and even dangerous. In reality it’s the opposite; it’s the unexpressed emotions that are the most intimidating. They band together like bullies, waiting to pounce at a vulnerable moment.
When emotions are acknowledged and faced straight on they soften, lighten and release all together. To prevent a backlog of feelings, spend time each day connecting with your body. Focus on your breathing until you feel present and relaxed. Notice sensations, aches or pains in your body. Then touch into your emotions. Ask your body what it’s feeling and notice a response.
Tune into the energetic vibration of whatever feeling arises. Turn up the volume and allow it to flow, express and process. As it dissipates, notice what’s underneath. Is there another emotion waiting to be acknowledged? I sometimes find that sadness underlies my anger, and that once both have been processed, joy emerges.
The next time an emotion is triggered, give yourself time and space to feel it, honor it and allow it to process. This will help to prevent a build up. For those times when you feel overwhelmed, take further steps to release the charge.
How to Release Charged Emotions
There are times when a traumatic event or tragedy occurs, or when an old painful wound is triggered by someone and our reactions feel overwhelming and explosive. Sitting still to process these large bursts of energy may not be enough to process them. Instead, try one or more of the following suggestions:
Journal your feelings. To get out of a mental loop of rehashing details or plotting the future (one way we try to cope with overwhelming feelings), put your thoughts and feelings down on paper. Start with the sentence, “I feel” and continue writing until there’s nothing left in you. If you are angry at someone, write a letter (that you don’t intend to mail) and get out all of your opinions, judgments and most importantly, your emotional reactions. When this is complete you may want to take a step further by performing a ritual. Burn the paper in a fire to symbolize release, or bury it in the ground to represent closure. It’s amazing how our mind and body can shift through physical and spiritual rituals.
Move your feelings. Because emotions are energy vibrations, they need movement in order to release. Feeling and expressing them is one way, but physical movement is another. Walk, stomp, jump, shake, run, rock, roll, dance, sway or stretch your body as a way to unleash stuck emotions.
Creatively express your feelings. A lovely way to honor emotions is to express them through poetry, music, color, dance, sculpture, painting and so on. You don’t have to be artistically talented to do this; children do it all the time. Connect with your inner kid, and let her express her feelings with a creative flair.
You may feel raw and vulnerable expressing emotions, so be sure to blanket yourself with self-love and self-care.
I hope these suggestions help you to process and release charged emotions. Please share your experiences in the comment section below.